If you struggle with being too thin-skinned, some of these tips might just help. If you struggle with being too thin-skinned, some of these tips might just help:. Make your voice heard. Try not to take it personally. Build up your confidence. Roll with it. Use your brain. So is everyone else. You have beliefs, opinions, mannerisms, interests, personality traits, and habits.
There are certain people that you like and enjoy spending your time, and there are people you dislike and do not enjoy spending your time. Other people feel the same way about you. Strive to live your life with good character, respect others, and work to live your life by a high moral code focused on love and service. If you do this, you should not feel offended when someone does not like you.
Instead, you understand they do not stand for the important items you stand for in your life, and their favor of you, or lack thereof, is insignificant.
Embrace confrontation with curiosity and candor: Instead of approaching disagreements with fear, anger, jealously, or frustration, choose curiosity and candor. The goal of confrontation should not focus on a verbal or physical fight, but instead, the sincere search for alignment. Use curiosity to focus on asking questions to understand the facts behind the disagreement, which very well may solve the confrontation. Use candor to focus on honest conversation and expression of your interest in presenting your beliefs while equally seeking to understand where the other person is coming from in their argument.
If you lose your temper, you have lost your argument. Not all confrontation ends with both sides agreeing. Sometimes you must agree to disagree. However, you are much more likely to have your position understood if you genuinely seek to understand the position of the other person. You always want to have a clear view of where you stand.
There is a vast difference between constructive criticism or even criticism of your work versus verbal abuse.
Note the difference and make sure that you are always being treated with respect. Life is way too short to be verbally tortured by anyone. If you find yourself in an abusive relationship with your boss or anyone at work, start documenting specific examples of abuse and report them to your human resources department. Your work though is an ever-changing product. Be open to perfecting it. Be open to learning new ways to accomplish goals. And remember that mental chant! This is a BETA experience.
You may opt-out by clicking here. More From Forbes. Nov 12, , pm EST. Nov 12, , am EST. Edit Story. Use this information to help yourself take the insult less personally. It may have hurt your feelings, but it was just a disguise for the person's real feelings.
See if you have a deeper wound. If you tend to take the least negative comment as an insult, you might be the one with confused emotions. You might have deeper feelings of inadequacy that make it difficult to bear callous comments.
Recognizing this can help you feel less insulted and develop a thicker skin. Someone calling you "silly" or "dumb" may cause you to feel more deeply insulted than the person intended.
The solution is to work on the feelings of inadequacy that are leading to the tender, sensitive spot. When you feel more confident about your intelligence you'll be able to let such comments roll off of your back.
React nobly. Resist the urge to counter the insult with one of equal force. It won't make you feel better about yourself. Resorting to a counter insult will only cause worse feelings to arise. Instead, react in a way you can be proud of when you think about the situation later.
You have every right to ignore the insult. Just pretend like it wasn't said, if that seems like the best solution. Or try lifting your chin, making eye contact and telling the person "you're wrong; that's not true.
Defend yourself if you need to. If you're being insulted frequently, you may need to go further to put a stop to the situation. Some people get pleasure from making other people feel pain. If you feel the insults are going too far, consider one of these options: Have a face to face confrontation. Tell the person that you expect him or her to stop insulting you.
Sometimes just calling the person out will put a stop to the behavior. Seek outside help. If you feel you're being bullied , a one-on-one confrontation may not help. Talk to your teacher, principal, supervisor, or someone else who can help you deal with the situation quickly.
Method 3. Be proud of your strengths. When you feel good about your natural abilities, your personality and your other strengths, negative comments have less power to hurt you.
You can take criticisms with a grain of salt and use them to improve. You can see right through empty insults. Building confidence is the best way to develop a thicker skin. Do you know your strengths? Try making a list of everything you admire about yourself. Having a firm grasp on what you're good at will bolster you when you're feeling down. Get good at what you do. Spend time practicing, learning and always working to get better. That way you'll have a core knowledge that you're good at what you do.
A criticism or insult won't have as much power to bring you down. Don't try to be perfect. If perfection is your ideal, every little comment can floor you. It's OK to have things you need to work on. There is no way to be excellent at everything you try, every time. It's not that you have to lower your standards for yourself. Just realize that trying your best is what counts, not perfection. Perfectionists are also highly critical of themselves.
To let go of perfectionist tendencies, challenge yourself to learn something new. Try a new skill, sport, language, or anything else that interests you. Starting from scratch is humbling. It will help you realize that perfection is impossible. It's the journey that counts. Spend time with positive people. Maybe you're surrounded by people who are critical of you. It can be difficult to see yourself clearly when others are holding you to impossible standards. The solution is not to try to change, but to spend time with people who accept you for who you are.
Pay attention to how you feel after hanging out with certain people. Do you feel refreshed and happy? Or do you feel worse about yourself?
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